It is summer-time and a great time for you and your spouse to steal some time away just for the two of you! But if you are like many other couples, you often put time alone on the back-burner. It’s understandable. There are so many other things that are pressing! The kids summer camp, the family vacation, that big summer project at your job…all of those things are LOUDLY demanding your attention so of course a “luxury” vacation with your spouse just isn’t priority.
But think again! You and your marriage may NEED to get-away in order for you to stay happy and productive for the rest of the year! Did you know that statistics state that “…due to jobs, kids, TV, the internet, hobbies, and home and family responsibilities, the average married couple spends just 4 minutes a day alone together”? FOUR MINUTES! You and I both know our marriages need much more than 4 minutes if we are going to last a life-time.
So, it is time for you to re-consider a get-away with your boo! Keep in mind, your time away doesn’t have to be an elaborate cruise or a 10-day trip away. You can go away for 24 hours or for the weekend! Log-on to Groupon to find a hotel discount or use your frequent flyer miles for a quick flight to a fun destination! Even a stay-cation in your city will work…! The goal is to get away from the hustle and bustle of life to reconnect and invest in your romance!
Still not convinced? Here are three signs you and your spouse need a vacation!
1. You can’t remember the last time the two of you vacationed alone!
If you’ve been married longer than a year and the last time you remember getting away was your honeymoon, that might be an indicator it is time for you to get away. Make sure your trip is children free! Fanning the flames of your marriage is critical and children don’t fan the flame, they often put it out.
Many couples get so consumed with the demands of life….work, bills, church, children…they forget the importance of investing in their marriage. Spending time alone helps to keep the two of you connected and on one accord.
2. You are in the midst of, or just came out of a stressful “life” situation!
Whether it is the demands of work, a family crisis or health challenges, stressful situations can often create tension in our marriages. I have found in my work with couples, that many times it is not even issues in the marriage that cause tension…many times it is other issues that we are dealing with that impact our attitudes and it is then our attitudes that we have towards our spouse that create marital tension.
While we can’t expect to live a life that is problem free, we can make sure we buffer our marriage from the damaging impact of outside problems. So if you know you (or your spouse) has had a tough time lately, schedule a get-away. A change in scenery will do a world of good for your relationship.
3. Lately you both are easily irritated by one another.
Being in the same space, having the same routine and dealing with the same “life” stuff day in and day out can drive us all crazy, and if we aren’t careful we start to drive each other crazy. Sometimes it is an easy fix…take some time to get away!
Going on a mini / or extended vacation may be just the cure to the irritability that has been plaguing your relationship. Now, while you are away, make sure you take time to connect intimately (you know…have a lot of sex!) to help decrease agitation. Sex plus a new environment will give you the boost you need to reengage in the demands of life.
Your turn! How do you know when you and your spouse need a getaway?
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